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Gathering Flow -
20 minutes Wisdom Sharing
40 minutes Dad Sharing
“We need to meet the millennials where they are; not where we are.
One technique when working with ‘first half of life’ individuals is to
‘Let them enter through their door and exit through your door’ the plan is to leverage this proven approach in the offering.’
“As John Gottman says, “One of the great paradoxes in therapy is that people don’t change unless they feel accepted as they are.” If you attack, they attack back. But if you accept people, they listen.
And showing admiration is even better. Admiration is the opposite of contempt. It not only shows someone you accept them but that you respect and value them. This makes people want to be better.”
This will be where we start the Gatherings acceptance, respect and meeting them where they are.”
“Jung once said, with pithy oversimplification, that in essence there are two problems in therapy: getting people into the flow of life during the first half and then getting them back out again in the second half (pg 78)”
“What a privilege we have been given to share our life’s experiences to a new Generation of children through their Father’s willingness and courage to listen to us. ”
“Old age demands that one garner and lean on all previous experience, maintaining awareness and creativity with a new grace. There is often something one might call indomitable about many old people. Erik has called it an “invariable core”, the “existential identity,” that is an integration of past, present, and future. It transcends the self and underscores the presence of inter-generational links. It is universal in its acceptance of the human condition. Part of the human condition is to lack wisdom about ourselves in our planet. We must become aware of how little we know. Perhaps we could wisely “become like little children” who are willing to live, love, and learn openly. What does that imply? Life has been rich. Trust it further like a trusting child. Relax and try to be unselfconsciously playful. Whenever you have playmates, play and let it take you with laughter where are you haven’t been for years!”
“Young men today are starving for blessing from older men, starving for blessing from the King energy. This is why they cannot, as we say, “get it together.” They shouldn’t have to. They need to be blessed. They need to be seen by the King, because if they are, something inside will come together for them. That is the effect of blessing; it heals and makes whole. That’s what happens when we are seen and valued and concretely rewarded for our legitimate talents and abilities.”
— Robert Moore, Douglas Gilette
"Any process of deep or lasting growth involves mentors; their effects on us are more mysterious and far-reaching than the practical aid or advice they provide. We learn from books, we learn from our senses, our thoughts, our emotions, our doing. We learn from what others tell us, and from what we overhear. Though mentoring may include several of these modes of learning, it is also essentially different, because the mentor's simple presence in our lives creates an alchemy that transfers a subtle inner power. This transference cannot happen in any other way. In addition to simple face time, body time--our sharing of time, space, and presence with a mentor--it involves the sharing of stories.....
Mentoring tales, whatever advice or counsel they may offer, are also always tales of grief. In a mentoring tale, an older person inevitably expresses, whether directly or indirectly, the fact that sorrow is always the past's legacy, simply because the past, whatever else it may be, is gone, never to be recovered. The mentoring tale also expresses the confidence that, despite this and no matter how regrettable it may have been, the past is instructive and survivable. The past fertilizes the present." —Sailing Home, Norman Fischer
Instead this story (Icarus and Daedalus) is a tragic parable about the importance of intergenerational wisdom and intergenerational communication, without which there will be no wisdom. True communication requires trust, understanding and the ability to speak the same language….. It is imperative that elders and youth listen to each other and learn each other’s languages and references. If each generation doesn’t listen and communicate in ways in which the other hears, tragedy follows. — The Hidden Spirituality of Men - Matthew Fox
“Self-Initiation is killing our young men. Without strong mentors, boys are walking alone into a wilderness of conflicting messages about who they should be as men. It's no wonder that our sons are confused about what the world expects from them and what they should expect of themselves.” — The Intentional Father Jon Tyson
Good Tutors do these 3 things:
1)They know the material well,
2)they keep students engaged, and
3)they track what each student currently knows, so they can present material that’s neither too easy nor too hard.
A typical graph of the forgetting curve purports to show that humans tend to halve their memory of newly learned knowledge in a matter of days or weeks unless they consciously review the learned material.
Gathering Tips
Gathering 1
Introductions and Law of Three
Guide for Gathering 1
Gathering 2
King and Warrior
Guide for Gathering 2
Gathering 3
Magician and Lover
Guide for Gathering 3
Gathering 4
Surrender and Enneagram
Guide for Gathering 4
Gathering 5
Living in Relationships
Guide for Gathering 5